Sunday, 4 August 2013

judgement calls

The other day i met up with a very old friend. We are so different and I am always a little surprised we have remained friends over the past 20 years. But i guess our differences make for interesting conversations...or at least interesting to talk about afterwards with my dear husband!
During this particular visit our conversation was slightly dull as i listened (once again) to her chatter on and on about her own kids, the kids she will be working this year and her hatred of patterned clothing. Then we spoke briefly about someone i just recently met and whom she has known for years. She said something about this woman that got me thinking.... she told me she doesn't like the other lady because she's happy being fat. i was slightly dumbfounded by this comment and just let it go.
but it got me thinking. why should it matter to someone whether or not another person is happy with who they are, thin or not? I think it's quite admirable that this new friend of mine is so confident in herself that she isn't bothered by her weight. or even if she is she doesn 't talk about it and seems very comfortable in her own skin. She has a fabulous life, a loving husband, 3 beautiful kids and gorgeous professionally decorated house and no need to ever worry about working. who wouldn't be happy.
Who is my old friend to judge this woman based on her weight? Would i judge and not like someone because they never bother putting on make-up, or should brush their hair more often- no. i accept them for who they are. flaws and all! I might not like someone for being judgemental and over bearing but because they are fat... not the case, I may even be a little jealous that they can be happy with themselves as they are because weight is such an obsession for both myself and so many women (and men) in society today.
Is being happy with being fat a bad thing? I think it is more important to teach your children that being a good person and being confident in who you are comes from within and not based on exterior appearances.  Obsessing about weight and complaining about being fat all the time can lead to a lot of issues for both you and the people around you. (although admittedly i am guilty of this but am really trying to make a concerted effort not to complain about my appearance - especially in front on my kids)  Having so much self-confidence that you are happy in your own skin just shows a level of maturity that perhaps not everyone can obtain.
anyway  i was so bothered by this comment i had to express my opinions on it... what would you have said or perhaps thought about this???

Saturday, 3 August 2013

fourty not frumpy

Before turning 40 i was really scared for what was to come. i had always thought of 40 as being the turning point in a downward spiral towards the end...or just "over the hill"
Now that i am 40 i feel that I'm 40 but not frumpy. unlike so many of the women i know around my age i want to be fabulous and fashionable. I don't want to let my age deter me from looking great, rocking high heals and bikinis. i refuse to wear tankinis with skirt bottoms and "sensible shoes".
i don't always have my nails done nicely but i never (ever) leave my house without mascara and lip gloss.
In my pursuit of fabulousness i have recently picked up these great treasures....